Posted in Adversity, Attitude, Boss, Encouragement, Faith and Work, Prayer, Relationships, Work, tagged adversity at work, Attitude, Encouragement, Faith, faith at work, Forgiveness, forgiveness at work, relationships at work, scripture for work, trust, workplace scripture on October 30, 2012 |
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Have you been hurt at work? Was it a co-worker a boss or a client? Have you had a hard time getting past it? How can you set that experience aside and move on with a positive attitude?
Have you been wronged at work?
If you’ve had an experience where someone has wronged you, you understand how it can affect you. It could’ve been a conversation that you overheard, an email that was inadvertently sent to you, a co-worker who took credit for work that you performed, or being blamed for something that you weren’t even responsible for. When that happens, trust goes out the door, and you are left with a feeling of betrayal. If left unresolved, the problem just gets bigger in our minds and bitterness sets in. You can kiss productivity and a positive attitude goodbye.
Hanging on to that experience only hurts you. The other person may not even realize that you are hurt. Decide right now to put this behind you. Here are some suggestions…
- Pray for the person who hurt you – It’s easy to love those who love you, but as Christians we are called to love and pray for our enemies as well. Jesus said in the Sermon on the Mount “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matt 5:44.
- Have a reconciling spirit – As hard as it is, if you really want to get past this, you must have a heart for reconciliation versus retribution.
- Don’t get even – “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.” Romans 12:19
- Talk it out – “If your brother sins against you, go to him. Tell him what he did wrong. Keep it between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won him back.” Matt 18:15
- For your own sake, forgive – Remember, you don’t forgive someone for his or her sake – you forgive them for your sake. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Col 3:13
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Posted in Adversity, Honesty, Influence, Integrity, Leadership, Relationships, Vision, Wisdom, tagged Courage, Culture, Encouragement, Fear, Forgiveness, Influence, Inspiration, Integrity, leadership, purpose, Relationship, success, Work on April 12, 2012 |
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The last seven days have yielded one of the most powerful displays of leadership that I have ever witnessed. Even if you are not a sports fan, you have likely heard the recent saga of University of Arkansas Football Coach Bobby Petrino. While there are undoubtedly critical lessons we need to learn from Coach Petrino’s story, the REAL leadership story is found in University of Arkansas Athletic Director Jeff Long.
This is a story of a leader who found himself in what most people described as a “no-win” situation. Jeff Long had an employee on his team who was an incredible performer. He had achieved almost superstar status from his “customers”. Revenue was at an all-time high largely due to this employee. The national buzz was off the charts and the future looked even brighter than the past. This is a story that we often see in the marketplace, isn’t it? As the leader, what do you do? The only thing riding on the decision is the psyche of a state, a potential national championship and the near-term future of the University of Arkansas.
A good case could be made for forgiveness with discipline. Let’s keep the train on the tracks. Let’s do what most other leaders do. Let’s do what the “world” tells us to do. That is NOT what Jeff Long chose to do.
I have included the full press conference here. If you haven’t seen it, please take time to watch it. You will be amazed. If you have seen it, I encourage you to watch it again. But this time, watch it with your leadership eyes. Go to school on what you see here from a courageous leader.
Here’s a sampling of the leadership lessons I learned:
- Integrity - Doing the right thing, is never the wrong thing.
- Wisdom and Courage - have the wisdom to know what to do, and the courage to do it.
- Compassion - his heart is deeply connected to the mission. He hurt for everyone who lost in this situation (especially the players).
- Details - a great leader is willing to understand and execute.
- Decisiveness - his assuredness created a persuasive confidence in the masses.
- Vision - communicating the future state with confidence creates emotion and commitment.
- Choices - as leaders we face them everyday. Are we willing to do the right thing no matter what the outcome?
- Excuses – it was never about Jeff Long. You can only imagine the turmoil he went through.
- Passion - do we really care about the mission and purpose of our work?
- Influence - last…our work is a platform for influence. Jeff Long made the hard choice. The by-product is an impact in thousands of peoples lives that you can have honor and integrity.
Thanks Jeff…for giving us hope. For allowing your life at work to be a bright light for the rest of us.
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C.S Lewis writes that “To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” He goes on to say that ” To forgive the incessant provocations of daily life—to keep on forgiving the bullying husband, the nagging wife, the selfish daughter or the deceitful son—how can we do it? Only, I think, by remembering where we stand, by meaning our words when we say in our prayers each night “Forgive us our trespasses and we forgive those that trespass against us.” We are offered forgiveness on no other terms. To refuse it is to refuse God’s mercy for ourselves. There is no hint of exceptions and God means what he says.
Our workplaces are rampant with opportunities for forgiveness. Who has not been wronged in one way or another at work? Are you still holding on to it and refusing to forgive? A buddy at work told me more than once that “Forgiveness is liberating.” and he was so right. Please don’t start this new year holding something against someone at work. I don’t have to think longer than a couple of seconds about mistakes I have made that needed someone else’s forgiveness. I know this can be very hard, but we must forgive each other,without limits, as our Father has forgiven us, especially those who are our brother and sisters in Christ. There is tremendous joy for those who continuously offer forgiveness, who recall what unlimited mercy has been poured out on us through Jesus Christ and who show the same mercy toward others.
Before you pray today, spend some time thinking about who do you need to forgive at work. Don’t let this year start chained in the dark dungeon of bitterness and miss the blessing of joy when you have truly forgiven. Let it go!
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